Today I am present for...

What parts of your motherhood path do you dislike?

No, not loving it all doesn't make you "a bad mother", just makes you human. It is ok not to love it all, with no guilt or pain.

Sleep routines, preparing meals, diaper changing...? What is it that you dislike?

For me it is very challenging to be fully present to the daily routines of cooking, cleaning and even brushing teeth and hair when I have exciting projects in hands. I don't like it that I am at all times responsible for feeding and attending other basic needs for my child.

Most of the time I am ok with these, and can enjoy bath time or even preparing food together (cooking is not among my talents but I can manage to prepare a yummy meal ;-)) but when I am working on one of my other passions it just gets so intense I don't want to... "waste" any time.

Today I am present for this, I know time is never wasted and my child is here to remind me of the sacredness of life, every little detail of life. 

Today I am as much present to clean my child's bottom as I am to stand for Women's rights, for I am aware that all of it is healing work; and has impact in the universe and its balance.

Today make your affirmations

I am present for... (what you dislike the most);

I am grateful to... (your favourite thing as a mother).

Share it here!

And have a wonderful day, #ommmmmmamma

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All learning is self learning

I was at the playground with my son and watched the mother while she struggled with her toddler: "Don't do that! I am taking you away now! You have to learn how to share!"

I did not judge her, I have a toddler myself and I recognise the deep challenges of being a mother. But I sat there thinking... Most of what we call "misbehaving" at this stage is actually just a child going trough the process of learning something. Children, like everyone, will not "learn" anything before they are ready, and putting them under pressure to do so will not help. If you think about it that is why most of the learning we do in our early years of babyhood is called "milestones". Achievements we make by ourselves. 

You do not need to teach your baby how to walk or train your toddler how to go potty; and there is no use on wanting a pre-Scholler to "share", "take turns", "wait", or "be quiet". It will simply not happen just because you want it to. There is no use on forcing anything, and what a relief that is (!), that we can just let nature do the work. We cannot train babies (doesn't matter what some books say!) and most of all, we do not need to.

What to do in between? How to manage it? Realise it is a phase, it will pass, it will change (you might even come to miss it, when bigger, deeper challenges come).

Be present, be patient and loving. 

Let them take their time.

We can only do what we are ready to do. Respect the sacredness of nature's timings, your child embodies them.

#ommmmmmamma

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#tumtumLife

Grateful

It rains outside. It's cold. I am lying in bed with #tumtum, he just feel asleep on my breast. I put him down gently next to me and we hug. We are probably going to sleep like this all night. Might even sleep in, he will decide that. He does not have a school to attend to, I do not have a job to run to.

We are so free.

And I go to sleep feeling grateful for just how lucky we are.

#tumtumLife #ommmmmmamma

Follow your heart

I was asked:

- what do you do to always keep your "mothering style"?

If I can bring it down to one simple idea it is: follow your Heart.

Nothing else.

And then it will happen that you will once in a while question your heart's voice, so I keep a few friends by my bedside table. Two or three books on "parenting" you can call them, books that if I can define in one idea teach this: follow your heart.

#ommmmmmamma

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You are wow

Note do Self: MOM is WOW, upside down.

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Mothers create

I have this theory that pregnancy opens up our creative power, like an awakening of our creative chakras (no wonder it happens in the womb, the space for creation) and this blooms into our motherhood path. 

Something like... once this initiation takes place you never go back, into being "not creative" again. 

This creative flow can take many shapes and forms of course, if can be cooking, writing, dancing!

Did this happen to you? How? 

Maybe you started a business, wrote a book, start photography, or just feel creative about every aspect of your life?

Share with me, #creativemom, your #motherhoodAwakenings

Wishing you a good day, mother of creation!

#ommmmmmamma

Things my son says

#thingsMySonSays

- I was anGRY!

- yes, you were angry... And what do we do when we get angry?

- breathe out... But mama...

- yes?

- I got scared...

- you got scared?!

- yes... Angry is scary... I got scared, sorry mama...

Oooooooh #tumtum #tumtumLife

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