My best yoga practice? Being at peace, during a tantrum.
Remember, peacefully dealing with these moments children loose their balance does not mean saying "yes" to things you do not wish to agree to. But you can just be there, be available, be loving, be supportive, even saying "no" to your child's request.
When you struggle with these episodes scan your own feelings. What do you feel? Is there guilt... ? Are you comparing your child to others maybe... Or your own parenting? Are you ashamed or worry about what others around you might be thinking? Is there any Fear... ?
Do you find these inside of you? Address them, heal them, let them go.
I will not judge your strategy to deal with meltdowns and tantrums as we all know how challenging these can be. And I do not have a magic solution myself. But I try.
Things I try to do? I try to be present, to hold space, to offer my lap, my hand, my love. I try to be patient. I try to stay connected, through words or touch (when that is an option). I try to give it time to heal, not ignoring him, not judging what happen, but always (doesn't matter the child's age) explaining my reasons and holding space for my son to explain his.
Remember, a tantrum is like an angry dance, and it's truly a healing process, a way to channel energy and process emotions. And we all know, how harmful these can be when stored inside...
Wishing you love and ease,
#ommmmmmamma
#ommmmmmammaMotheringSeries
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